What Sex should be like
There are people who constantly want sex, but what they really want is what sex represents, which is love. And so without love, you can be constantly engaging in one-night stands and prostitutes, yet never be fulfilled. Not only that, constantly chasing shallow sex normalises these superficial acts, and brings you further away from developing the complex traits needed to find genuine love. Like any addiction, it’s short-term relief but long-term harm.
Sex should be sacred, as in you should treat sex as a special and holy act, and not just do it with any Tom Dick or Harry. You should only engage in it with someone you truly connect with. The literal physical act of sex shows people completely naked and open with someone, yet feeling completely happy and at ease. And inserting your pubic part into another represents true connection, where you think what I think, I feel what you feel, where the illusion of us being two separate people vanishes, and where both of us becomes one. It’s akin to being in contact with God, it’s truly a transcendent experience.
But you can only experience the above if you have sex with someone you truly love. Sex with someone just because they’re hot or have big tits and ass or whatever may feel fun and exhilarating for awhile but you do kind of feel sad and empty awhile right?
Really, the secret ingredient to sex is love. I might be a minority on this, but in my life I have never been able to have sex with someone I barely know or connect with. And even those who are experienced in sex will admit, sex with someone you love is best, even if that person’s sex technique isn’t the best.
What people really want is love and a true connection, and you don’t necessarily need a sexual partner for that. You can have a connection with your friends, a family member, a teacher, whoever. What’s really important is developing a personality worthy of love, to meditate, exercise, practice acts of self-love in your day to day life, because only by loving yourself, can you start to love others, and will others start to love you. And once you start taking the right path, by the grace of God, even without you searching, God might just bless you for who you’ve been searching for all your life.